第7章
Love,suchastheglowingpenofgeniushastraced,existsnotonearth,oronlyresidesinthoseexalted,fervidimaginationsthathavesketchedsuchdangerouspictures。Dangerous,becausetheynotonlyaffordaplausibleexcusetothevoluptuary,whodisguisessheersensualityunderasentimentalveil;butastheyspreadaffectation,andtakefromthedignityofvirtue。Virtue,astheverywordimports,shouldhaveanappearanceofseriousness,ifnotausterity;andtoendeavourtotrickheroutinthegarbofpleasure,becausetheepithethasbeenusedasanothernameforbeauty,istoexaltheronaquicksand;amostinsidiousattempttohastenherfallbyapparentrespect。Virtue,andpleasurearenot,infact,sonearlyalliedinthislifeassomeeloquentwritershavelabouredtoprove。Pleasurepreparesthefadingwreath,andmixestheintoxicatingcup;butthefruitwhichvirtuegives,istherecompenceoftoil:and,graduallyseenasitripens,onlyaffordscalmsatisfaction;nay,appearingtobetheresultofthenaturaltendencyofthings,itisscarcelyobserved。Bread,thecommonfoodoflife,seldomthoughtofasablessing,supportstheconstitution,andpreserveshealth;stillfeastsdelighttheheartofman,thoughdiseaseandevendeathlurkinthecupordaintythatelevatesthespiritsorticklesthepalate。Thelivelyheatedimaginationinthesamestyle,drawsthepictureoflove,asitdrawseveryotherpicture,withthoseglowingcolours,whichthedaringhandwillstealfromtherainbowthatisdirectedbyamind,condemned,inaworldlikethis,toproveitsnobleorigin,bypantingafterunattainableperfection;everpursuingwhatitacknowledgestobeafleetingdream。Animaginationofthisvigorouscastcangiveexistencetoinsubstantialforms,andstabilitytotheshadowyreverieswhichthemindnaturallyfallsintowhenrealitiesarefoundvapid。Itcanthendepictlovewithcelestialcharms,anddoteonthegrandidealobject;itcanimagineadegreeofmutualaffectionthatshallrefinethesoul,andnotexpirewhenithasservedasa"scaletoheavenly;"and,likedevotion,makeitabsorbeverymeaneraffectionanddesire。
Ineachother"sarms,asinatemple,withitssummitlostintheclouds,theworldistobeshutout,andeverythoughtandwish,thatdonotnurturepureaffectionandpermanentvirtue。Permanentvirtue!alas!Rousseau,respectablevisionary!thyparadisewouldsoonbeviolatedbytheentranceofsomeunexpectedguest。LikeMilton"s,itwouldonlycontainangels,ormensunkbelowthedignityofrationalcreatures。Happinessisnotmaterial,itcannotbeseenorfelt!Yettheeagerpursuitofthegoodwhicheveryoneshapestohisownfancy,proclaimsmanthelordofthislowerworld,andtobeanintelligentialcreature,whoisnottoreceive,butacquirehappiness。They,therefore,whocomplainofthedelusionsofpassion,donotrecollectthattheyareexclaimingagainstastrongproofoftheimmortalityofthesoul。
But,leavingsuperiormindstocorrectthemselves,andpaydearlyfortheirexperience,itisnecessarytoobserve,thatitisnotagainststrong,perseveringpassions;butromantic,waveringfeelings,thatIwishtoguardthefemaleheartbyexercisingtheunderstanding;fortheseparadisiacalreveriesareoftenertheeffectofidlenessthanofalivelyfancy。
Womenhaveseldomsufficientseriousemploymenttosilencetheirfeelings;aroundoflittlecares,orvainpursuits,fritteringawayallstrengthofmindandorgans,theybecomenaturallyonlyobjectsofsense。Inshort,thewholetenoroffemaleeducation(theeducationofsociety)tendstorenderthebestdisposed,romanticandinconstant;andtheremaindervainandmean。Inthepresentstateofsociety,thisevilcanscarcelyberemedied,Iamafraid,intheslightestdegree;shouldamorelaudableambitionevergainground,theymaybebroughtnearertonatureandreason,andbecomemorevirtuousandusefulastheygrowmorerespectable。
ButIwillventuretoassert,thattheirreasonwillneveracquiresufficientstrengthtoenableittoregulatetheirconduct,whilstthemakinganappearanceintheworldisthefirstwishofthemajorityofmankind。Tothisweakwishthenaturalaffectionsandthemostusefulvirtuesaresacrificed。GirlsmarrymerelytoBETTERTHEMSELVES,toborrowasignificantvulgarphrase,andhavesuchperfectpowerovertheirheartsasnottopermitthemselvestoFALLINLOVEtillamanwithasuperiorfortuneoffers。OnthissubjectImeantoenlargeinafuturechapter;itisonlynecessarytodropahintatpresent,becausewomenaresooftendegradedbysufferingtheselfishprudenceofagetochilltheardourofyouth。
>Fromthesamesourceflowsanopinionthatyounggirlsoughttodedicategreatpartoftheirtimetoneedlework;yet,thisemploymentcontractstheirfacultiesmorethananyotherthatcouldhavebeenchosenforthem,byconfiningtheirthoughtstotheirpersons。Menordertheirclothestobemade,andhavedonewiththesubject;womenmaketheirownclothes,necessaryorornamental,andarecontinuallytalkingaboutthem;andtheirthoughtsfollowtheirhands。Itisnotindeedthemakingofnecessariesthatweakensthemind;butthefripperyofdress。Forwhenawomaninthelowerrankoflifemakesherhusband"sandchildren"sclothes,shedoesherduty,thisispartofherbusiness;butwhenwomenworkonlytodressbetterthantheycouldotherwiseafford,itisworsethansheerlossoftime。Torenderthepoorvirtuous,theymustbeemployed,andwomeninthemiddlerankoflifedidtheynotapethefashionsofthenobility,withoutcatchingtheirease,mightemploythem,whilsttheythemselvesmanagedtheirfamilies,instructedtheirchildren,andexercisedtheirownminds。
Gardening,experimentalphilosophy,andliterature,wouldaffordthemsubjectstothinkof,andmatterforconversation,thatinsomedegreewouldexercisetheirunderstandings。TheconversationofFrenchwomen,whoarenotsorigidlynailedtotheirchairs,totwistlappets,andknotribbands,isfrequentlysuperficial;but,I
contend,thatitisnothalfsoinsipidasthatofthoseEnglishwomen,whosetimeisspentinmakingcaps,bonnets,andthewholemischiefoftrimmings,nottomentionshopping,bargain—hunting,etc。etc。:anditisthedecent,prudentwomen,whoaremostdegradedbythesepractices;fortheirmotiveissimplyvanity。
Thewanton,whoexerciseshertastetorenderherpersonalluring,hassomethingmoreinview。
Theseobservationsallbranchoutofageneralone,whichIhavebeforemade,andwhichcannotbetooofteninsistedupon,for,speakingofmen,women,orprofessions,itwillbefound,thattheemploymentofthethoughtsshapesthecharacterbothgenerallyandindividually。Thethoughtsofwomeneverhoveraroundtheirpersons,andisitsurprisingthattheirpersonsarereckonedmostvaluable?Yetsomedegreeoflibertyofmindisnecessaryeventoformtheperson;andthismaybeonereasonwhysomegentlewiveshavesofewattractionsbesidethatofsex。Addtothis,sedentaryemploymentsrenderthemajorityofwomensickly,andfalsenotionsoffemaleexcellencemakethemproudofthisdelicacy,thoughitbeanotherfetter,thatbycallingtheattentioncontinuallytothebody,crampstheactivityofthemind。
Womenofqualityseldomdoanyofthemanualpartoftheirdress,consequentlyonlytheirtasteisexercised,andtheyacquire,bythinkinglessofthefinery,whenthebusinessoftheirtoiletisover,thatease,whichseldomappearsinthedeportmentofwomen,whodressmerelyforthesakeofdressing。Infact,theobservationwithrespecttothemiddlerank,theoneinwhichtalentsthrivebest,extendsnottowomen;forthoseofthesuperiorclass,bycatching,atleastasmatteringofliterature,andconversingmorewithmen,ongeneraltopics,acquiremoreknowledgethanthewomenwhoapetheirfashionsandfaultswithoutsharingtheiradvantages。Withrespecttovirtue,tousethewordinacomprehensivesense,Ihaveseenmostinlowlife。Manypoorwomenmaintaintheirchildrenbythesweatoftheirbrow,andkeeptogetherfamiliesthatthevicesofthefatherswouldhavescatteredabroad;butgentlewomenaretooindolenttobeactivelyvirtuous,andaresoftenedratherthanrefinedbycivilization。
IndeedthegoodsensewhichIhavemetwithamongthepoorwomenwhohavehadfewadvantagesofeducation,andyethaveactedheroically,stronglyconfirmedmeintheopinion,thattriflingemploymentshaverenderedwomenatrifler。Men,takingher("I
takeherbody,"saysRanger。)body,themindislefttorust;sothatwhilephysicalloveenervatesman,asbeinghisfavouriterecreation,hewillendeavourtoenslavewoman:andwhocantellhowmanygenerationsmaybenecessarytogivevigourtothevirtueandtalentsofthefreedposterityofabjectslaves?("Supposingthatwomenarevoluntaryslaves——slaveryofanykindisunfavourabletohumanhappinessandimprovement。"——"Knox"sEssays"。)
Intracingthecausesthatinmyopinion,havedegradedwoman,I
haveconfinedmyobservationstosuchasuniversallyactuponthemoralsandmannersofthewholesex,andtomeitappearsclear,thattheyallspringfromwantofunderstanding。Whetherthisarisesfromaphysicaloraccidentalweaknessoffaculties,timealonecandetermine;forIshallnotlayanygreatstressupontheexampleofafewwomen(Sappho,Eloisa,Mrs。Macaulay,theEmpressofRussia,Madamed"Eon,etc。These,andmanymore,maybereckonedexceptions;and,arenotallheroes,aswellasheroines,exceptionstogeneralrules?Iwishtoseewomenneitherheroinesnorbrutes;butreasonablecreatures。)who,fromhavingreceivedamasculineeducation,haveacquiredcourageandresolution;Ionlycontendthatthemenwhohavebeenplacedinsimilarsituationshaveacquiredasimilarcharacter,Ispeakofbodiesofmen,andthatmenofgeniusandtalentshavestartedoutofaclass,inwhichwomenhaveneveryetbeenplaced。
CHAPTER5。
ANIMADVERSIONSONSOMEOFTHEWRITERSWHOHAVERENDEREDWOMEN
OBJECTSOFPITY,BORDERINGONCONTEMPT。
Theopinionsspeciouslysupported,insomemodernpublicationsonthefemalecharacter,andeducation,whichhavegiventhetonetomostoftheobservationsmade,inamorecursorymanner,onthesex,remainnowtobeexamined。
SECTION5。1。
IshallbeginwithRousseau,andgiveasketchofthecharacterofwomeninhisownwords,interspersingcommentsandreflections。Mycomments,itistrue,willallspringfromafewsimpleprinciples,andmighthavebeendeducedfromwhatIhavealreadysaid;buttheartificialstructurehasbeenraisedwithsomuchingenuity,thatitseemsnecessarytoattackitinamorecircumstantialmanner,andmaketheapplicationmyself。
Sophia,saysRousseau,shouldbeasperfectawomanasEmiliusisaman,andtorenderherso,itisnecessarytoexaminethecharacterwhichnaturehasgiventothesex。
Hethenproceedstoprove,thatwomenoughttobeweakandpassive,becauseshehaslessbodilystrengththanman;andfromhenceinfers,thatshewasformedtopleaseandtobesubjecttohim;andthatitisherdutytorenderherselfAGREEABLEtohermaster——thisbeingthegrandendofherexistence。
Supposingwomentohavebeenformedonlytoplease,andbesubjecttoman,theconclusionisjust,sheoughttosacrificeeveryotherconsiderationtorenderherselfagreeabletohim:andletthisbrutaldesireofself—preservationbethegrandspringofallheractions,whenitisprovedtobetheironbedoffate,tofitwhich,hercharactershouldbestretchedorcontracted,regardlessofallmoralorphysicaldistinctions。Butif,asIthinkmaybedemonstrated,thepurposesofeventhislife,viewingthewhole,aresubvertedbypracticalrulesbuiltuponthisignoblebase,I
maybeallowedtodoubtwhetherwomanwascreatedforman:andthoughthecryofirreligion,orevenatheismberaisedagainstme,Iwillsimplydeclare,thatwereanangelfromheaventotellmethatMoses"sbeautiful,poeticalcosmogony,andtheaccountofthefallofman,wereliterallytrue,IcouldnotbelievewhatmyreasontoldmewasderogatorytothecharacteroftheSupremeBeing:and,havingnofearofthedevilbeforemineeyes,I
venturetocallthisasuggestionofreason,insteadofrestingmyweaknessonthebroadshouldersofthefirstseducerofmyfrailsex。
"Itbeingoncedemonstrated,"continuesRousseau,"thatmanandwomanarenot,noroughttobe,constitutedalikeintemperamentandcharacter,itfollowsofcourse,thattheyshouldnotbeeducatedinthesamemanner。Inpursuingthedirectionsofnature,theyoughtindeedtoactinconcert,buttheyshouldnotbeengagedinthesameemployments:theendoftheirpursuitsshouldbethesame,butthemeanstheyshouldtaketoaccomplishthem,and,ofconsequence,theirtastesandinclinationsshouldbedifferent。"
(Rousseau"s"Emilius",Volume3page176。)
"Girlsarefromtheirearliestinfancyfondofdress。Notcontentwithbeingpretty,theyaredesirousofbeingthoughtso;wesee,byalltheirlittleairs,thatthisthoughtengagestheirattention;andtheyarehardlycapableofunderstandingwhatissaidtothem,beforetheyaretobegovernedbytalkingtothemofwhatpeoplewillthinkoftheirbehaviour。Thesamemotive,however,indiscreetlymadeuseofwithboys,hasnotthesameeffect:providedtheyarelettopursuetheiramusementsatpleasure,theycareverylittlewhatpeoplethinkofthem。Timeandpainsarenecessarytosubjectboystothismotive。
"Whencesoevergirlsderivethisfirstlessonitisaverygoodone。
Asthebodyisborn,inamannerbeforethesoul,ourfirstconcernshouldbetocultivatetheformer;thisorderiscommontobothsexes,buttheobjectofthatcultivationisdifferent。Intheonesexitisthedevelopementofcorporealpowers;intheother,thatofpersonalcharms:notthateitherthequalityofstrengthorbeautyoughttobeconfinedexclusivelytoonesex;butonlythattheorderofthecultivationofbothisinthatrespectreversed。
Womencertainlyrequireasmuchstrengthastoenablethemtomoveandactgracefully,andmenasmuchaddressastoqualifythemtoactwithease。"
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"Childrenofbothsexeshaveagreatmanyamusementsincommon;andsotheyought;havetheynotalsomanysuchwhentheyaregrownup?
Eachsexhasalsoitspeculiartastetodistinguishinthisparticular。Boyslovesportsofnoiseandactivity;tobeatthedrum,towhipthetop,andtodragabouttheirlittlecarts:
girls,ontheotherhand,arefonderofthingsofshowandornament;suchasmirrors,trinkets,anddolls;thedollisthepeculiaramusementofthefemales;fromwhenceweseetheirtasteplainlyadaptedtotheirdestination。Thephysicalpartoftheartofpleasingliesindress;andthisisallwhichchildrenarecapacitatedtocultivateofthatart。"
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"Herethenweseeaprimarypropensityfirmlyestablished,whichyouneedonlytopursueandregulate。Thelittlecreaturewilldoubtlessbeverydesiroustoknowhowtodressupherdoll,tomakeitssleeveknots,itsflounces,itsheaddress,etc。,sheisobligedtohavesomuchrecoursetothepeopleabouther,fortheirassistanceinthesearticles,thatitwouldbemuchmoreagreeabletohertoowethemalltoherownindustry。Hencewehaveagoodreasonforthefirstlessonswhichareusuallytaughttheseyoungfemales:inwhichwedonotappeartobesettingthematask,butobligingthem,byinstructingtheminwhatisimmediatelyusefultothemselves。And,infact,almostallofthemlearnwithreluctancetoreadandwrite;butveryreadilyapplythemselvestotheuseoftheirneedles。Theyimaginethemselvesalreadygrownup,andthinkwithpleasurethatsuchqualificationswillenablethemtodecoratethemselves。"
Thisiscertainlyonlyaneducationofthebody;butRousseauisnottheonlymanwhohasindirectlysaidthatmerelythepersonofayoungwoman,withoutanymind,unlessanimalspiritscomeunderthatdescription,isverypleasing。Torenderitweak,andwhatsomemaycallbeautiful,theunderstandingisneglected,andgirlsforcedtositstill,playwithdolls,andlistentofoolishconversations;theeffectofhabitisinsisteduponasanundoubtedindicationofnature。IknowitwasRousseau"sopinionthatthefirstyearsofyouthshouldbeemployedtoformthebody,thoughineducatingEmiliushedeviatesfromthisplan;yetthedifferencebetweenstrengtheningthebody,onwhichstrengthofmindinagreatmeasuredepends,andonlygivingitaneasymotion,isverywide。
Rousseau"sobservations,itispropertoremark,weremadeinacountrywheretheartofpleasingwasrefinedonlytoextractthegrossnessofvice。Hedidnotgobacktonature,orhisrulingappetitedisturbedtheoperationsofreason,elsehewouldnothavedrawnthesecrudeinferences。
InFrance,boysandgirls,particularlythelatter,areonlyeducatedtoplease,tomanagetheirpersons,andregulatetheirexteriorbehaviour;andtheirmindsarecorruptedataveryearlyage,bytheworldlyandpiouscautionstheyreceive,toguardthemagainstimmodesty。Ispeakofpasttimes。Theveryconfessionswhichmerechildrenareobligedtomake,andthequestionsaskedbytheholymenIassertthesefactsongoodauthority,weresufficienttoimpressasexualcharacter;andtheeducationofsocietywasaschoolofcoquetryandart。Attheageoftenoreleven;nay,oftenmuchsooner,girlsbegantocoquet,andtalked,unreproved,ofestablishingthemselvesintheworldbymarriage。
Inshort,theyweremadewomen,almostfromtheirverybirth,andcomplimentswerelistenedtoinsteadofinstruction。These,weakeningthemind,Naturewassupposedtohaveactedlikeastep—mother,whensheformedthisafter—thoughtofcreation。
Notallowingthemunderstanding,however,itwasbutconsistenttosubjectthemtoauthority,independentofreason;andtopreparethemforthissubjection,hegivesthefollowingadvice:
"Girlsoughttobeactiveanddiligent;noristhatall;theyshouldalsobeearlysubjectedtorestraint。Thismisfortune,ifitreallybeone,isinseparablefromtheirsex;nordotheyeverthrowitoffbuttosuffermorecruelevils。Theymustbesubject,alltheirlives,tothemostconstantandsevererestraint,whichisthatofdecorum:itis,therefore,necessarytoaccustomthemearlytosuchconfinement,thatitmaynotafterwardcostthemtoodear;andtothesuppressionoftheircaprices,thattheymaythemorereadilysubmittothewillofothers。If,indeed,theyarefondofbeingalwaysatwork,theyshouldbesometimescompelledtolayitaside。Dissipation,levity,andinconstancy,arefaultsthatreadilyspringupfromtheirfirstpropensities,whencorruptedorpervertedbytoomuchindulgence。Topreventthisabuse,weshouldlearnthem,aboveallthings,tolayaduerestraintonthemselves。Thelifeofamodestwomanisreduced,byourabsurdinstitutions,toaperpetualconflictwithherself:notbutitisjustthatthissexshouldpartakeofthesufferingswhicharisefromthoseevilsithathcausedus。"
Andwhyisthelifeofamodestwomanaperpetualconflict?I
shouldanswer,thatthisverysystemofeducationmakesitso。
Modesty,temperance,andself—denial,arethesoberoffspringofreason;butwhensensibilityisnurturedattheexpenseoftheunderstanding,suchweakbeingsmustberestrainedbyarbitrarymeans,andbesubjectedtocontinualconflicts;butgivetheiractivityofmindawiderrange,andnoblerpassionsandmotiveswillgoverntheirappetitesandsentiments。
"Thecommonattachmentandregardofamother,nay,merehabit,willmakeherbelovedbyherchildren,ifshedoesnothingtoincurtheirhate。Eventherestraintshelaysthemunder,ifwelldirected,willincreasetheiraffection,insteadoflesseningit;
becauseastateofdependencebeingnaturaltothesex,theyperceivethemselvesformedforobedience。"
Thisisbeggingthequestion;forservitudenotonlydebasestheindividual,butitseffectsseemtobetransmittedtoposterity。
Consideringthelengthoftimethatwomenhavebeendependent,isitsurprisingthatsomeofthemhugtheirchains,andfawnlikethespaniel?"Thesedogs,"observesanaturalist,"atfirstkepttheirearserect;butcustomhassupersedednature,andatokenoffearisbecomeabeauty。"
"Forthesamereason,"addsRousseau,"womenhaveoroughttohave,butlittleliberty;theyareapttoindulgethemselvesexcessivelyinwhatisallowedthem。Addictedineverythingtoextremes,theyareevenmoretransportedattheirdiversionsthanboys。"
Theanswertothisisverysimple。Slavesandmobshavealwaysindulgedthemselvesinthesameexcesses,whenoncetheybrokeloosefromauthority。Thebentbowrecoilswithviolence,whenthehandissuddenlyrelaxedthatforciblyheldit:andsensibility,theplaythingofoutwardcircumstances,mustbesubjectedtoauthority,ormoderatedbyreason。
"Thereresults,"hecontinues,"fromthishabitualrestraint,atractablenesswhichthewomenhaveoccasionforduringtheirwholelives,astheyconstantlyremaineitherundersubjectiontothemen,ortotheopinionsofmankind;andareneverpermittedtosetthemselvesabovethoseopinions。Thefirstandmostimportantqualificationinawomanisgood—natureorsweetnessoftemper;
formedtoobeyabeingsoimperfectasman,oftenfullofvices,andalwaysfulloffaults,sheoughttolearnbetimeseventosufferinjustice,andtobeartheinsultsofahusbandwithoutcomplaint;itisnotforhissake,butherown,thatsheshouldbeofamilddisposition。Theperversenessandill—natureofthewomenonlyservetoaggravatetheirownmisfortunes,andthemisconductoftheirhusbands;theymightplainlyperceivethatsucharenotthearmsbywhichtheygainthesuperiority。"
Formedtolivewithsuchanimperfectbeingasman,theyoughttolearnfromtheexerciseoftheirfacultiesthenecessityofforbearance;butallthesacredrightsofhumanityareviolatedbyinsistingonblindobedience;or,themostsacredrightsbelongONLYtoman。
Thebeingwhopatientlyenduresinjustice,andsilentlybearsinsults,willsoonbecomeunjust,orunabletodiscernrightfromwrong。Besides,Idenythefact,thisisnotthetruewaytoformormelioratethetemper;for,asasex,menhavebettertempersthanwomen,becausetheyareoccupiedbypursuitsthatinteresttheheadaswellastheheart;andthesteadinessoftheheadgivesahealthytemperaturetotheheart。Peopleofsensibilityhaveseldomgoodtempers。Theformationofthetemperisthecoolworkofreason,when,aslifeadvances,shemixeswithhappyart,jarringelements。Ineverknewaweakorignorantpersonwhohadagoodtemper,thoughthatconstitutionalgoodhumour,andthatdocility,whichfearstampsonthebehaviour,oftenobtainsthename。Isaybehaviour,forgenuinemeeknessneverreachedtheheartormind,unlessastheeffectofreflection;and,thatsimplerestraintproducesanumberofpeccanthumoursindomesticlife,manysensiblemenwillallow,whofindsomeofthesegentleirritablecreatures,verytroublesomecompanions。
"Eachsex,"hefurtherargues,"shouldpreserveitspeculiartoneandmanner:ameekhusbandmaymakeawifeimpertinent;butmildnessofdispositiononthewoman"ssidewillalwaysbringamanbacktoreason,atleastifhebenotabsolutelyabrute,andwillsoonerorlatertriumphoverhim。"True,themildnessofreason;
butabjectfearalwaysinspirescontempt;andtearsareonlyeloquentwhentheyflowdownfaircheeks。
Ofwhatmaterialscanthatheartbecomposed,whichcanmeltwheninsulted,andinsteadofrevoltingatinjustice,kisstherod?Isitunfairtoinfer,thathervirtueisbuiltonnarrowviewsandselfishness,whocancaressaman,withtruefemininesoftness,theverymomentwhenhetreatshertyrannically?Natureneverdictatedsuchinsincerity;andthoughprudenceofthissortbetermedavirtue,moralitybecomesvaguewhenanypartissupposedtorestonfalsehood。Thesearemereexpedients,andexpedientsareonlyusefulforthemoment。
Letthehusbandbewareoftrustingtooimplicitlytothisservileobedience;forifhiswifecanwithwinningsweetnesscaresshimwhenangry,andwhensheoughttobeangry,unlesscontempthadstifledanaturaleffervescence,shemaydothesameafterpartingwithalover。Theseareallpreparationsforadultery;or,shouldthefearoftheworld,orofhell,restrainherdesireofpleasingothermen,whenshecannolongerpleaseherhusband,whatsubstitutecanbefoundbyabeingwhowasonlyformedbynatureandarttopleaseman?whatcanmakeheramendsforthisprivation,orwhereisshetoseekforafreshemployment?wherefindsufficientstrengthofmindtodeterminetobeginthesearch,whenherhabitsarefixed,andvanityhaslongruledherchaoticmind?
Butthispartialmoralistrecommendscunningsystematicallyandplausibly。
"Daughtersshouldbealwayssubmissive;theirmothers,however,shouldnotbeinexorable。Tomakeayoungpersontractable,sheoughtnottobemadeunhappy;tomakehermodestsheoughtnottoberenderedstupid。Onthecontrary,Ishouldnotbedispleasedatherbeingpermittedtousesomeart,nottoeludepunishmentincaseofdisobedience,buttoexemptherselffromthenecessityofobeying。Itisnotnecessarytomakeherdependenceburdensome,butonlytoletherfeelit。Subtiltyisatalentnaturaltothesex;andasIampersuaded,allournaturalinclinationsarerightandgoodinthemselves,Iamofopinionthisshouldbecultivatedaswellastheothers:itisrequisiteforusonlytopreventitsabuse。"
"Whateveris,isright,"hethenproceedstriumphantlytoinfer。
Granted;yet,perhaps,noaphorismevercontainedamoreparadoxicalassertion。ItisasolemntruthwithrespecttoGod。
He,reverentiallyIspeak,seesthewholeatonce,andsawitsjustproportionsinthewomboftime;butman,whocanonlyinspectdisjointedparts,findsmanythingswrong;anditisapartofthesystem,andthereforeright,thatheshouldendeavourtoalterwhatappearstohimtobeso,evenwhilehebowstothewisdomofhisCreator,andrespectsthedarknesshelabourstodisperse。
Theinferencethatfollowsisjust,supposingtheprincipletobesound:"Thesuperiorityofaddress,peculiartothefemalesex,isaveryequitableindemnificationfortheirinferiorityinpointofstrength:withoutthis,womanwouldnotbethecompanionofman;
buthisslave:itisbyhersuperiourartandingenuitythatshepreservesherequality,andgovernshimwhilesheaffectstoobey。
Womanhaseverythingagainsther,aswellourfaultsasherowntimidityandweakness:shehasnothinginherfavour,buthersubtiltyandherbeauty。Isitnotveryreasonable,therefore,sheshouldcultivateboth?"Greatnessofmindcanneverdwellwithcunningoraddress;forIshallnotboggleaboutwords,whentheirdirectsignificationisinsincerityandfalsehood;butcontentmyselfwithobserving,thatifanyclassofmankindbesocreatedthatitmustnecessarilybeeducatedbyrules,notstrictlydeduciblefromtruth,virtueisanaffairofconvention。HowcouldRousseaudaretoassert,aftergivingthisadvice,thatinthegrandendofexistence,theobjectofbothsexesshouldbethesame,whenhewellknew,thatthemindformedbyitspursuits,isexpandedbygreatviewsswallowinguplittleones,orthatitbecomesitselflittle?
Menhavesuperiourstrengthofbody;butwereitnotformistakennotionsofbeauty,womenwouldacquiresufficienttoenablethemtoearntheirownsubsistence,thetruedefinitionofindependence;
andtobearthosebodilyinconveniencesandexertionsthatarerequisitetostrengthenthemind。
Letusthen,bybeingallowedtotakethesameexerciseasboys,notonlyduringinfancy,butyouth,arriveatperfectionofbody,thatwemayknowhowfarthenaturalsuperiorityofmanextends。
Forwhatreasonorvirtuecanbeexpectedfromacreaturewhentheseed—timeoflifeisneglected?None——didnotthewindsofheavencasuallyscattermanyusefulseedsinthefallowground。
"Beautycannotbeacquiredbydress,andcoquetryisanartnotsoearlyandspeedilyattained。Whilegirlsareyetyoung,however,theyareinacapacitytostudyagreeablegesture,apleasingmodulationofvoice,aneasycarriageandbehaviour;aswellastotaketheadvantageofgracefullyadaptingtheirlooksandattitudestotime,place,andoccasion。Theirapplication,therefore,shouldnotbesolelyconfinedtotheartsofindustryandtheneedle,whentheycometodisplayothertalents,whoseutilityisalreadyapparent。""FormypartIwouldhaveayoungEnglishwomancultivateheragreeabletalents,inordertopleaseherfuturehusband,withasmuchcareandassiduityasayoungCircassiancultivatesher"s,tofitherfortheHaramofanEasternbashaw。"
Torenderwomencompletelyinsignificant,headds,——"Thetonguesofwomenareveryvoluble;theyspeakearlier,morereadily,andmoreagreeablythanthemen;theyareaccusedalsoofspeakingmuchmore:butsoitoughttobe,andIshouldbeveryreadytoconvertthisreproachintoacompliment;theirlipsandeyeshavethesameactivity,andforthesamereason。Amanspeaksofwhatheknows,awomanofwhatpleasesher;theonerequiresknowledge,theothertaste;theprincipalobjectofaman"sdiscourseshouldbewhatisuseful,thatofawoman"swhatisagreeable。Thereoughttobenothingincommonbetweentheirdifferentconversationbuttruth。"
"Weoughtnot,therefore,torestraintheprattleofgirls,inthesamemannerasweshouldthatofboys,withthatseverequestion,"Towhatpurposeareyoutalking?"butbyanother,whichisnolessdifficulttoanswer,"Howwillyourdiscoursebereceived?"Ininfancy,whiletheyareasyetincapabletodiscerngoodfromevil,theyoughttoobserveitasalaw,nevertosayanythingdisagreeabletothosewhomtheyarespeakingto:whatwillrenderthepracticeofthisrulealsothemoredifficult,is,thatitmusteverbesubordinatetotheformer,ofneverspeakingfalselyortellinganuntruth。"Togovernthetongueinthismannermustrequiregreataddressindeed;anditistoomuchpractisedbothbymenandwomen。Outoftheabundanceofthehearthowfewspeak!
Sofew,thatI,wholovesimplicity,wouldgladlygiveuppolitenessforaquarterofthevirtuethathasbeensacrificedtoanequivocalquality,which,atbest,shouldonlybethepolishofvirtue。
Buttocompletethesketch。"Itiseasytobeconceived,thatifmalechildrenbenotinacapacitytoformanytruenotionsofreligion,thoseideasmustbegreatlyabovetheconceptionofthefemales:itisforthisveryreason,Iwouldbegintospeaktothemtheearlieronthissubject;forifweweretowaittilltheywereinacapacitytodiscussmethodicallysuchprofoundquestions,weshouldrunariskofneverspeakingtothemonthissubjectaslongastheylived。Reasoninwomenisapracticalreason,capacitatingthemartfullytodiscoverthemeansofattainingaknownend,butwhichwouldneverenablethemtodiscoverthatenditself。Thesocialrelationsofthesexesareindeedtrulyadmirable:fromtheirunionthereresultsamoralperson,ofwhichwomanmaybetermedtheeyes,andmanthehand,withthisdependenceoneachother,thatitisfromthemanthatthewomanistolearnwhatsheistosee,anditisofthewomanthatmanistolearnwhatheoughttodo。Ifwomancouldrecurtothefirstprinciplesofthingsaswellasman,andmanwascapacitatedtoenterintotheirminutaeaswellaswoman,alwaysindependentofeachother,theywouldliveinperpetualdiscord,andtheirunioncouldnotsubsist。Butinthepresentharmonywhichnaturallysubsistsbetweenthem,theirdifferentfacultiestendtoonecommonend;itisdifficulttosaywhichofthemconducesthemosttoit:
eachfollowstheimpulseoftheother;eachisobedient,andbotharemasters。"